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yellowrosetx ([personal profile] yellowrosetx) wrote2008-08-16 04:13 am
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Huff, puff, and ....

So, here I am again. Other that AIM screwing up and the fuss brewing over in DM, things are pretty good. ::knocks wood::

You know, I tend to post my RP rants out of public view and so only the RPers can read them because, let's be honest, generally only the RPers "get it." It's much like the doll collectors get the doll things, the music friends get the music things and so on. If it's not your "thing," then it's not your thing.

Today, however, I'm going to make an exception on this subject for a brief grumbling session. Many of the RPers or former RPers know what the RDI is and probably know what Dragon's Mark is. I've been playing at DM about once a week. Flashchat can get hard on my brain, but for a couple of hours a week, it's tolerable and most of the people have been fine. My gripe is NOT with those playing, it's with people that think they need to play net nanny and censor things that aren't even on that site.

This is simple, this is straight forward, if you don't own LJ and I'm posting within the TOS/TOU then you have no right to be telling me what I can and cannot be venting about. Who the hell are you to be getting on your high horse and telling people don't post rants about me in your blog? The rules are simple. Don't piss me off, don't hurt my feelings and I won't be noticing you long enough TO be ranting about you. Stop trying to play mommy to people that are adults and don't need their hands held to have issues solved. Let the admins do their jobs.

Just because you don't see my name on a lot of posts does not mean I'm the newb you seem to think I am. Don't make me introduce myself in the form of "this is who I used to be and I probably still remember where the proverbial bodies are buried." I don't like doing that, it irks me when other people do it. It amuses me, however, when other people say... "Uh... do you have any idea who you're talking to and that she is known for having a tongue that could cut you to ribbons? Don't set her off."

I have to wonder about people that refer others to people's blogs going.. "Did you see what X said about you?" I think the person doing the pointing out bears responsibility for their pal's hurt, too. Or worse yet, the trusted friends that reveal the contents of locked posts to those people.

There you have it, out in the open for any registered LJ user, save two that have been banned, to reply to.

[identity profile] leesalogic.livejournal.com 2008-08-16 05:11 pm (UTC)(link)
I agree that you should be able to say what you want on your own blog and no one can tell you that you can't rant about your experience with someone or your opinion with regard to something s/he did. That's just life. I mean, does anyone seriously think that if s/he can stop someone from writing about her/him that the thoughts aren't there? Dude, the ranter STILL has the opinion about you whether they write it down, talk about it in chat, talk about it over dinner, or keep it to themselves!

However, I don't think we have the right to write or say something without repercussions. I can only trust the filters and friends so far that unwanted eyes and ears won't hear my snark. If I wrote something snarky about person A that only my filter could see and my commentary got back to person A, I would be truthful about what I wrote/said. I wouldn't apologize for my opinion/snark I had at the time, BUT if I found out more information that would change the tone of the opinion/snark, then I would apologize for that.

There's a few people at DM that are way too full of themselves and are drama llamas to the extreme. They are a snark's dream to observe in action.

[identity profile] yellowrosetx.livejournal.com 2008-08-17 10:21 pm (UTC)(link)
I find a strange twisted sense of irony in the fact that person bitching most about the bloggers went out of her way to go look for what was said about her. That's like going to someone else's house to see if they talk about you.

I agree 100% that people are responsible for what they say/write and should be held accountable.

[identity profile] asche.livejournal.com 2008-08-16 10:42 pm (UTC)(link)
Things blow up over at DM about every three months or so. It's always the same people posting too. I skim, shake my head, post something once in a blue moon and get on with my rp. I don't care if anyone over there has said anything about me(highly doubt it since I'm way off people's radar), don't care where it's said and don't really care them at all (with the exception of a few who aren't the problem).
Edited 2008-08-16 22:43 (UTC)

[identity profile] yellowrosetx.livejournal.com 2008-08-17 10:25 pm (UTC)(link)
I generally post when something interests me. However, like you said, it's a lot of head shaking and wondering where people came up with the stuff. Same people all the time. Jump on the bandwagon kind of thing.

[identity profile] darthwiater.livejournal.com 2008-08-17 04:16 am (UTC)(link)
My voice doesn't count for much over there. I just roll my eyes and shake my head at the amount of idiocy and childish behavior that goes on by people who really should have grown out of the high school mentality. I admit sometimes I have trouble, but hey, I vent to people I know rather than play the kiddie games. I just stopped really caring what people think about me, you know?

[identity profile] yellowrosetx.livejournal.com 2008-08-17 10:41 pm (UTC)(link)
We all vent to someone at some point or other. Not everyone gets the RP thing, so it's generally the same people that hear our frustrations.

That reminds me I should IM you about someone that bent my ear this weekend.

[identity profile] blackhilllife.livejournal.com 2008-08-17 06:19 am (UTC)(link)
Thats one of the aspects of RP I really do not miss.
::sigh::
And not surprised that it's still a problem.

[identity profile] yellowrosetx.livejournal.com 2008-08-17 10:27 pm (UTC)(link)
I generally stay clear of the stirring of the manure, but there's always that one person that rattles the bear cage.
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[identity profile] yellowrosetx.livejournal.com 2008-08-17 10:29 pm (UTC)(link)
Like a train wreck, you just can't look away even though you know what you're going to see!

[identity profile] dragonsonmymind.livejournal.com 2008-08-17 06:27 pm (UTC)(link)
You know I do not like to deal with DM at all, since it was a major reason I went over to LT years ago.

Hey you should be allowed to say anything you like in your own personal blog. Be flattered they search it out to stick their little nose in. Guess what you have to say must matter to them.

[identity profile] yellowrosetx.livejournal.com 2008-08-17 10:42 pm (UTC)(link)
Honestly, I have to wonder how many other people gawked at what she had to say then went off to blog and vent.

My Turn

[identity profile] rachaelwynter.livejournal.com 2008-08-18 06:03 am (UTC)(link)
It makes me physically sick to see people pawn off the responsibility for their enjoyment of their online experience on others. By this, I mean those Net Nannies who want people like you and me to play nice nice on our blogs, off of the DM site, because it might offend someone on DM otherwise. How the hell does what you or I say on our blogs actually influence role-playing on the site? Why should it influence things there? How the hell are these people finding the rants in the first place? I honestly believe it's their friends playing both sides, and fanning the flames of wangst, that find these posts, and point them out to the butthurt Net Nannies out there.

It especially sickens me to see someone who is against blending actually come out and say that she views rants on outside sources as a lack of "trust" and, therefore, won't play with the characters that the ranters play on any deep level. If that isn't a clear example of blending, I don't know what is. If I was to blend like that, I wouldn't play with ANYONE that has ever posted on DM in a negative sense, not to mention not play with the same sort on ME. But, I don't roll like that. As long as I'm not being played AT, I'll play with just about anyone, within reason, no matter what they have posted on DM or any other site.

The fact that off-site wangst was brought over to DM to piss and moan about by the Net Nanny says a lot. The boards were actually relatively calm, within reason, until the Net Nanny decided they needed a pity party, and so stirred things up again.

Those who look for the bad will find it. I don't need to look for the bad. I just want to play.