More on the Holiday Front
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Got a couple of odds and ends to stuff in the stocking for Tom.
Three boxes left to finish packing that need a ride to the local post office. Some people might think me silly for dropping them off one or two at a time instead of waiting for them to pile up and take them in one big stack. Thing is, if I waited, the seven I already sent would still be waiting to go. It just works out better to toss what's ready into the car for the errand run and go.
Jessica and Aaron's stuff are among those waiting to be sent. Will be working on those this weekend. Have one to go to up north and another goes to points south.
Yesterday, I found two nice surprises in my mailbox, holiday cards from
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Cryptic message to
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I really need to clean out my buddy lists one of these days, there are some people on them that I haven't spoken to in ages, for various reasons, despite having seen them online. I start to hit that send IM button and then realize why I really shouldn't. I could use the reasoning one of the people has in the past, "I've slept since then," but I suppose that really doesn't wash.
A new person has added me to their friends list. Hi to
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In the "if the shoe fits, general thoughts, and tell us what you really think" dept.
1 - Don't assume people don't care because they aren't jumping up and down every time you do or say something. I do care, sometimes I just have no idea what to say and maybe others feel the same.
2 - I've been tired lately, I'm not purposely avoiding you even though it might seem that way. Please use your IM finger and dial me up. Hell, call me, you have my number.
3 - I'd like to send out holiday greetings to certain people, but what exactly is appropriate send out these days to those that you want to wish well, but have no idea what they celebrate? Merry Solstice of Chrismakwanzakah cards?
4 - If you don't like Harry Potter or The Chronicles of Narnia, that's fine, but stop telling people either one of them are teaching children about Satanic rituals.
5 - Those of you that have embarked on journeys to better your health, I salute you. Keep up the good work.
6 - Sweep your own steps first because that neighbor you are pointing at for not doing theirs is probably laughing his or her ass off watching you point at yourself three times.
7 - Why do people continue to fight battles that they have already won or lost?
8 - You know, it's a pity that you are such a fool. You have great potential on many levels, but aren't wise enough to appreciate what you have always had. Greener pastures will be your perpetual home, it is your doom and destiny, fer keylley faaish. Mine is to eventually and always tell you no.
9 - You are killing yourself with your own hand. Knock it off, the killing not the hand.
10 - I often think of you when I see books or movies associated with Jane Austen, pictures of gators, and sometimes when I fix a cup of tea. Odd things, perhaps, but pleasant associations nonetheless.
11 - I'm proud of you ... and you ... and you, too! I feel like I watched the three of you grow up over the last seven or eight years. Each of you has had hardships and joys along the way, this is life and how it tosses curves. I hope that your joys will always outweigh your trials and sorrows.
12 - Why do I get the feeling you went off to have a whine and cheese fest to someone so they would take the bat on your behalf? Simple fact is you were rude to someone, you were in the wrong, live with it. I don't care if you apologize or not, but you were just wrong to tell them their behavior was unacceptable to the room at large when it was really only offensive to you. And speaking of offensive behavior, yours, IC, is tolerated a lot, so shut up. Your OOC powergaming of the setting, and by that I mean adding specific rooms, that are not noted as existing in the setting's write up and assuming they are public, without asking if it's ok is wrong. Some people that regularly play in the setting have done similar things, but they, at least, have an inkling of what the setting's founder will not flip out over. Not to mention that bartenders would have access to the wine cellar, if one presumes there is one in the basement, but that doesn't mean the general public does.
13 - Have you got any idea what a bully you sound like? You constantly stick your nose into the business of others where it should not be. Helping out is one thing, butting in is another. Butt ... out. Shoving your mug into peoples' faces and giving them their opinion is wrong in so many ways it's not funny. In short, quit acting like the arrogant asshole from hell and you might get better results.
14 - The following is written with apologies to several people on my friends list. Please note I'm not saying mental illnesses is not a real or serious thing. People that have illnesses like bi-polarity or schizophrenia need medical help, however, to use such an illness to pretty much excuse someone, who has committed a heinous crime, such as rape, is out of line.
While you are accusing people of being blind, in an arrogant and self righteous tone, have you ever once stopped to considered that it is you who is the one that is blind to the thoughts and feelings of others because you only see what you want to and always totally miss what the other person is saying if it's not 100% in line with your opinion? Take your mouth out of gear for five minutes, stop spewing regurgitated facts, and actually think about the fact that you have laid the brunt of the responsibility on the victim of a crime because ohnoes... the attacker has deep seeded issues in his past that caused him to do it. Sounds like a cop out. That's like the line in West Side Story, that says, "I'm depraved on account of I'm deprived." You are effectively saying that it's not the attacker's fault that he committed a crime because he's fucked in the head. Sorry, that's a no go.
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Date: 2005-12-16 01:54 am (UTC)4 - If you don't like Harry Potter or The Chronicles of Narnia, that's fine, but stop telling people either one of them are teaching children about Satanic rituals.
I do one thing regarding my holiday cards. I always look for as generic a message as possible. "Happy Holidays" is a classic, and sometimes something to the tune of "May the Season Bring you Happiness." Sometimes I slip and buy a "Merry Christmas" card because the picture is so cute. I try to be sensitive, but I figure that the thought is the important bit. I would hope my friends would remember that instead of freaking out about my "not respecting" their holiday of choice. This Christmas, I gave a Christmas card to the department chair, who is Jewish. I chose my most generic card, but it was still obviously Christmas-themed. He thanked me for the nice thought anyway.
And...geez, Narnia is so obviously a Biblical metaphor, how could anyone call it Satanic? I have to laugh just a little at that. I've also been wondering: What line was it that was missing from the movie? I thought it was pretty true to the book, but I've only read the book once. (I'm going through the whole series--so far A Horse and His Boy is my favorite, but that's the furthest I've gotten.)
And...I know that we don't often communicate personally, and I'm not a comment fiend, but I admire you from afar.
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Date: 2005-12-16 03:49 am (UTC)Number 14 has a preface apologizing to certain people on my friends list, who do not need to be named, regarding the content in the following paragraph said preface.
As for the rape meme, I was agreeing with quite a bit you had to say until these statements:
Unfortunately, ignorance is often the mental deficiency to blame for rape. Many men have been taught that rape is all right and it's not really rape. We only have a little influence over those people because they are taught by people who have been taught the same thing for a long time. The girls growing up in that social environment also learn that it is all right for a man to do what he wants and to take what he wants. No matter what you or I tell them, there is little chance we can reach them.
Please stop to think what we're dealing with here. This isn't something that can be handled with memes and bumper stickers. This is something which requires a lot of effort. We cannot place the blame squarely on anyone. The criminals are responsible for committing the crime but we have to be mindful of what led them to commit these crimes. Some people think that investigating that line of thought somehow excuses someone for committing a crime by turning them into victims themselves. It doesn't. They remain responsible for what they did. We also become responsible for figuring out why they did what they did so that we can have a chance of preventing it in the future.
Regardless of how you slice it, that sounds like you are excusing the behavior of rapists because of envoirnmental factors or medical factors. It doesn't erase the crime nor the effects on its victim.
Andrea Yates might have been suffering from post partuum or other type of depressed state, it does not change the fact that she was responsible for killing her children.
As the old saying goes, ignorance of the law is no excuse.
Never accuse me of not caring, you have no right to tell me what I think or feel. If I didn't care that meme never would have even appeared on my journal. In case you didn't notice, I stopped replying in your journal on the subject when you outright attacked me here: http://www.livejournal.com/users/tommydiablo/978890.html?thread=1950154#t1950154
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Date: 2005-12-16 04:02 am (UTC)This may be sappy..
Date: 2005-12-16 03:27 am (UTC)Re: This may be sappy..
Date: 2005-12-16 03:43 am (UTC)Re: This may be sappy..
Date: 2005-12-16 04:05 am (UTC)Love, lady.
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Date: 2005-12-16 05:45 pm (UTC)5. Sometimes the journey gets cut off by a giant brick wall falling from the sky and impaling itself in your path three inches from you were about to take that next step...
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Date: 2005-12-18 06:45 pm (UTC)